FROM VICTIM TO SURVIVOR

To tell my story as a date rape survivor and communicate my message in a way that can help the most people.

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Update: Hazing and Sexual Assault

So frequently we (the public) get caught up in the latest news stories where it will be our topic of the day expressing interest, outrage, etc. then moving on to the next "breaking" news item. The Today Show reported on a follow up to hazing and sexual assault allegations by members Sayreville high school football team this morning and I wanted to pass along the information. As I stated below in my original post the school administrators were brave enough to make the difficult choice to cancel the Fall 2014 season so they could further investigate how far reaching this went and whether it included other players and coaches. The Sayreville Board of Education upheld the decision by the Superintendent to suspend the Head Coach and 4 assistants at its meeting Tuesday October 21st. They put the welfare of the victims and all of their students first before an extra-curricular activity. We frequently make judgement's on what not to do but the actions of these administrators should be held up as a model for what to do. Also, let's not forget the victims who have a very long road of healing and recovery. Ultimately it's for that reason that I followed up and re-posted this story.

Below is a link to the NBC report and my original blog post.

Board Approves Sayreville Football Coach Suspension

...A recent story broke in the news about a New Jersey high school who cancelled their very successful football program for the remainder of the 2014 season initially reported as a result of student athlete hazing. The media also reported how athletes parents were upset and angry for such a radical decision that affected an entire team for the misbehavior of a few players. I remember thinking right away that there was more to the story and said as much to my boyfriend Steve since we are both from NJ and felt somewhat related to it. Within a week as the media continued to investigate and report, the news that 7 members of the football team had been arrested for sexually assaulting younger players as part of a hazing ritual. It was an Aha! moment for me as my original speculation was correct and I saw that the entire football program was shut down by the administrators because of an ongoing investigation by the Middlesex County prosecutors office and they didn't know how far reaching it was and for how long it's been going on.

I tuned into the Today Show Monday morning (as I did every morning) eager to see the interview with Dr. Richard Labee, superintendent of the school district and Richard Ciak, school board president of Sayreville War Memorial High School. They became aware of the harassment, intimidation and bullying by the football players and decided to shut it down completely while they conduct further investigation of incidents in other athletic programs and extra curricular activities starting with the coaching staff. These two important leaders of the school district should be held up as a model for the way they have conducted themselves and reacted to what is a horrific incident. They put the well being of the victims first before the potential scrutiny they would be held under by the parents and the community. These men made a difficult decision but then again doing what's right isn't supposed to be easy. 

Although there were initial reports of some parents dissatisfied reactions those seem to be in the minority because a very large rally was organized in support of the victims and held over the weekend. Speaking from my experience as a victim/survivor of sexual assault the male victims in Sayreville need to know there are people on their side. It doesn't make what happened to them go away but it will help in their healing process which is a very long road to the end. Male sexual assault is rarely discussed or reported on in the media which can make these victims feel even more isolated but knowing the community and school administrators believe in them can make all the difference in the world.

This is not the only hazing and sexual assault report I have seen recently but it's the only one I've seen that was handled properly!

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